Marriage is a relationship between differences that must be brought together into an intimate unit.
In this teaching we want to study different types of differences in marriage and how to manage them so as not to allow them to damage our marriage.
- Background Differences. This may involve family, religious, social, environmental, and doctrinal; if they are not wisely handled they may destroy the marriage. For example, when a lady that was born into a loud-praying church gets married to a man from a quiet-praying church; a wrong handling of their difference in a matured way will make the man may see the wife as a nuisance when praying.
Work to do; list at least seven background difference you notice when you married your husband or wife, how did you handle them?
- Culture, Custom and Food Differences. Family customs always differ, some are from the family where everybody normally goes to the dining table to eat together, some families have no time for that. If a lady from family A marries a man from family B, she may expect the man to bring everybody normally to the dining table to eat together for supper; the man may not see it that way. People from different places prefer different food, an Ijesha or Ekiti will prefer “Iyan” while an Ijebu man will prefer “Ikokore”.
- Gender Differences. Marriage is between a man and a woman not between man and man or woman and woman. When two people of different gender get married, there will always be a little of “fire work” because of their differences.
Discussion: Can we name some major differences between a man and a woman that can cause disharmony in their marriage and how to manage them.
- Temperamental Differences. One of the most difficult differences to handle in marriage is the temperamental differences; some of the so-called “bad” characters of our spouses are as a result of their temperamental which do not come in line with our own. Hence, we repel it, which may turn to crisis and confrontation.
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