The best way to be your husband’s favourite is to submit to him, if you submit to him you will be surprise that you will be the one that will be directing him, because he will start to listen to you.
((Wives submit to your own husbal1ds as to the Lord. Eph. 5:22. WHAT IS SUBMISSION?
A man of God defined it “As an abnormal humility” i.e. It is more than just being humble, after being humble, you dig deeper.
Somebody said humility is allowing somebody to lead, direct correct and even chastise you, while you still take it with joy even when you are not really wrong.
Submission is giving yourself to be trampled upon, losing your right when you have power to fight for it. To submit to your husband, you have to mix humility with obedience with love with honour with reverence with meekness and with silence. I.e. Humility + Love + Honour + Obedience + Reverence + Meekness + Silence = SUBMISSION.
HUMILITY– To submit, you have to be humble. Humility is Ability, if you must to win your man, you must be HUMBLE. Humility is the first step to submission; hence learn to be humble for the Lord gives grace only to the humble.
LOVE – It will be a little bit difficult to submit to your husband if you do not love him, hence please learn to love your man. If you ARE NOT IN LOVE, YOU ARE NOT IN THE LORD. Love your man, for God is love and love is God. If love is outside, God, will never be inside because loveliness is Godliness.
HONOUR – If you truly submit to your man, then it will show in the way you honour him. How you relate with him, how you call him, how you speak about him before your friends, how you present his food on the table and how you reply him when you are annoyed. If you fail to honour your man, you dishonour your destiny. If you honour him he will honour you.
MEEKNESS – Unless you are meek and gentle, you will speak rudely to your man when you are angry. It takes meekness to accept blame when you know you are right. If you behave like a sheep, nobody will beat you like a goat. REVERENCE – (Eph. 5:33) Reverence your man, do not fear him, but you must obey him.
As an obedient wife, do not speak to him anyhow, remember he is the “President of that home” and you are the first lady.
SILENCE- Learn to keep quiet, learn to keep silent, learn “due season” of communication. To submit, you must be teachable; to be teachable you must be silent to hear and take to correction.
OBEDIENCE- Obedience is said to be the mother of submission. If you can not obey, you can not submit and obedience is known to be better than sacrifice hence your food, beauty, dressing is nothing if you can not obey your husband.
It is well with your home! Shalom
Bisi adewale is an international conference speaker on marriage and family life, the author of these best selling books: Secrets of an Irresistible Wife, Hot and Sizzling Marriage, 20 Highways to a successful Marriage, Before you say I Do, and more than 60 other best selling books on marriage and family life.
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