When you are planning to build a house, you can’t over emphasize the place of pillar, so to build a great and long lasting marriage these pillars listed below must be taking into consideration
(1) Love- Is very important in marriage. In fact, without love there’s is nothing called marriage, so couples must learn love each other.
Love cares, gives forgives, serves, makes sacrifices, respects, honours, appreciates and is sensitive to the needs and well-being of the other party. Love is a choice. Choose to love your spouse. Love is a kind action. Be kind to your spouse, even if you feel he/she doesn’t deserve it
(2) Trust- A marriage is as strong as the level of trust existing among the two parties involved. No relationship can be enjoyed without trust. Trust is the foundation of love. You may trust somebody you do not love, but you cannot· love somebody you do not trust.
Trust should be built. Emotional balance should always be credited with good deeds, Honesty, truth, openness and integrity for a better marriage.
(3) Money – Money is very important in marriage. The Bible says it “answereth all things”. Couples should learn how to make and manage money. Money should not be allowed to separate them rather it should be used as an agent of change. Laziness, stinginess and extravagance, should not be allowed in the family.
(4) Respect – Mutual submission and respect is a very important key to marital success. Absence of respect gives room for third party to -penetrate into the family. It also gives room for hatred, as ego is bruised and self-esteem is destroyed. Couples need to respect each other and avoid taking each other for granted.
Bisi adewale is an international conference speaker on marriage and family life, the author of these best selling books: Secrets of an Irresistible Wife, Hot and Sizzling Marriage, 20 Highways to a successful Marriage, Before you say I Do, and more than 60 other best selling books on marriage and family life.
He is the president of Family Booster Ministry and College of Marital Success (CMS) (Africa’s Premier Marriage Institute), Host of Family Booster Moments on TV, watched in many countries across the globe.
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